The patterns and vows made at the second chakra affect your relationships and your ability to be intimate – both with yourself and other people. Although this is the area most associated with sexual intimacy, at the core, it is about the ability to speak your needs and trust that those needs can be met.

If you learned that it wasn’t safe to have or ask for your needs to be met, then you can see how you may have adopted behaviors that don’t allow for true intimacy.  Honesty, trust and communication become difficult.  If you don’t know who you are or what you want, then how can you possibly expect that another person can know?

Video [4 min]: EFT for Feeling Deepest Needs

The second chakra also rules your self-image: How do you value yourself on all levels? To see if your answer is congruent, think about how much pleasure you have on a daily basis. How often to you treat yourself to a special meal? How often do you spend money on yourself versus other people? If you provide services to clients, do you find it difficult to charge what you’re worth?    

Before you get started, think about a relationship in your life that you consider to be imbalanced. Rate the level of giving and receiving between each person. How much do you give to this person? How much do you receive from this person? How much does the person give to you? How much does the person receive from you? The tapping video below will help you open yourself up to being a better receiver in your life.           

Video [4 min] EFT to Receive

Can you see how vowing to never have needs or to only have the needs that others want you to makes it hard to establish boundaries in your life?  When you are honest about how you are feeling and honor your deepest desires, creating appropriate boundaries is easy. When you honor your emotions, feelings and instincts, you can trust that you’re making the right boundaries for you in that moment.

Journal Prompt:

• Which second chakra vows feel strongest for you? 
• How have these vows impacted your self-care? 
• How have these vows impacted your closest relationships?